“Sorry.” This word has become slightly controversial in recent years. Most know that it is used to patch up a broken relationship, acknowledge an everyday wrongdoing, and to make up for committing a personal offense.
Who tends use this word the most? Women. If you don’t think so, then you might as well apologize to CNN, NY Times, Time, and Forbes for wasting their time writing about it.
Many reporters go to the same two studies: one made on 33 college students who kept an online 12-day diary reporting every time they apologized and why.
The second was another college study, this time with 120 of them, rating how offensive a particular action is, such as bumping into someone or asking a question.
These studies found a few interesting ideas. Women, in fact, do apologize more, but men and women alike apologize the same amount they think they offend someone. Interestingly enough, the divide isn’t the amount of apologies, but the significance of the wrong-doing.
“Men aren’t actively resisting apologizing because they think it will make them appear weak or because they don’t want to take responsibility for their actions,” said study researcher Karina Schumann, a doctoral student in social psychology at the University of Waterloo in Ontario, Canada. “It seems to be that when they think they’ve done something wrong they do apologize just as frequently as when women think they’ve done something wrong. It’s just that they think they’ve done fewer things wrong.” (Live Science)
Women perceive being polite differently than men. Whether it be taking up space, or asking a question during discussion. After seeing a popular ad from Pantene, I realized how much I say it. Take a look:
The ad shows how much women apologize for things they don’t need to apologize for.
This ad is critiquing that women need to feel sorry for asserting themselves, taking up space, or receiving help.
Many women should realize that being polite doesn’t mean you have to be submissive or allow others to walk all over you.
Now I’m not saying to just walk around in your everyday life bumping into people or stepping on their feet and not apologizing, I’m simply saying women don’t need to feel bad for existing.
Women aren’t burdens to society, so don’t apologize for existing, girls.