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Chill Out & Don’t Overthink

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Recently, I have noticed a negative pattern in my personal life. Frequently, events have been occurring that impact me in negative ways. The overall trajectory of the mood has been way more on the adverse side, and I’m not exactly sure why. However, I believe I reacted appropriately and wasn’t completely gloomy. I think if such a pattern were to occur about three or more years ago, I would not react the same as I do to things of the sort today. Back then, I would get upset that the world wasn’t acting in accordance with my overall pleasure, and I would view it as unfair. I mean, every child, to some degree, complains with the phrase, “But that’s not fair!” I think part of that confusion stems from a lack of knowledge and experience, which led me to where I am now with an overall different approach to the situation.

I believe it to be part of my belief system, now in my life, that everything happens for a reason. Such a perspective has changed my life and overall boosted my positivity, even in traditionally negative times. The faith that everything happens for a reason can morph a bad event into something possibly good for the future. It also promotes less overthinking about personal error or the fault of others in your life. Those mindset changes have made me more aware of my response to things in my life, especially when they are negative. I think I have come a long way from my younger self, and I truly believe that it can be partially credited to the switch in my perspective on the occurances of my everyday life.

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Limited Time

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Now that spring has begun and the air is faintly smelling of orange blossom filling the valley air in the brisk mornings, I can tell my time here is coming to an end. The morning and afternoons driving up and down the weaving road into the campus atop the hill. There are so many fond memories that will last more than a life time.

But now I am counting the weeks left in this beautiful place that I have spent the last four years of my life. In one way, this place is kind of all I have ever known, but it has made me want to branch out and go explore. I have learned so much academically, but also as a person.

I’ve learned what to expect from people and how to protect myself and control emotions, I’ve learned how to make true life long connections with people but most importantly I began to learn who I am.

All of these small simple lessons have been learned simply from waking up and going to school every morning and giving it all I could every day.

So now I have realized I have limited time left, and that is in fact scary, but it is leading me to a new adventure.

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What makes you happy?

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“My friends”

“The smell of my grandmas sweater”

“Yerba”

“Watching the Sun sink behind the horizon”

“Hot coco by a fire”

“Hearing the crowd cheer at a ball game”

“Listening to music by myself”

“Driving around with nowhere to go”

“Eating cake”

“Catching a perfect wave”

“Brushing my horse”

“Feeling accomplished”

“Seeing my brother get home from collage”

“Flying on planes”

“Crying for joy”

“Getting an A”

“Kissing my wife”

“Hugging my kids”

“Finishing a painting”

“Thinking about fishing with my dad”

“Making my friends laugh”

“When I got glasses for the first time”

“Watching my child be born”

“Stargazing”

“Running Cross-county”

“Gardening in my home planted garden”

“Watching others be happy”


Each individual finds happiness, or has experienced happiness in many different ways. From the smallest things to the most life changing moments people feel happy.

For me I find happiness in the Ocean and the Forest, my family’s love, and in my friends laughter.

I encourage you to think about what makes you happy, big or small.

Special Thanks to all of the anonymous contributors that made this list of happiness possible.

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A Land of Lost Manners

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I have been working at my local farmers market selling produce for the past 5 years. I work every Sunday from 9am to 1pm. During my 5 years I have questioned something that I still have yet to find an answer to. Why are people so rude?

Are manners something that were just not learned or taught and just forgotten? Or never taught at all? Clearly the lack of manners crosses all generations, not just the young and socially inept teens but also the old farts.

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Working as a vendor has given me insight on being behind the cash register. Now I’m not saying that there isn’t ever any nice people who come to the market because there are. I have met incredible and amazing people. However, in all of the Sundays I have ever worked, I have never gone a day without encountering at least one rude customer. Normally I just ignore it and get over it because it is just something that comes with the job. However, today I had a situation with a customer that really just annoyed me. It’s weird because this situation that happened is normal and isn’t even close to the worst thats happened.

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Today towards the end of the market this lady came up asking to buy some carrots, I told her the price and she asked for a plastic bag. I said the same thing which I say every sunday to more than half of customers that buy items that are not loose or weighable, ” I’m sorry but I can’t give you a bag for that. I can only give bags for weighable items or loose items because of the ” No Plastic Bag” ordinance.  Now most people usually are annoyed and roll their eyes but eventually get over it. However, this lady kept pestering me for a bag saying things like, ” Just give it to me, I wont tell anyone”. It wasn’t even that big of a deal, it was one bag. But it was the way she was talking and how she kept asking, even after I told her that it was a set law that I couldn’t give her one. Finally she gave up begging for a plastic bag, she threw her carrots on the table and told me, ” Fine, if your going to be like that I don’t want to buy your carrots.” I said okay and she walked away.

I just started laughing after. No matter how many times I see it I can’t help but think how funny and ridiculous it is the way people react over such pointless things.

Everytime it happens I just ask myself how people are okay with themselves when they are so rude to people that they don’t even know. I feel like I am working in a land of lost manners.

Morals

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We toss the words moral and ethics around so much that I have begun to hate both words.

Now my morals and ethics have come into question on multiple occasions, just like almost any one else. Maybe it is my youth, but I find it so curious how people could tell others what is right and what is wrong.

Now I do not say this in a fully rebellious way. I think there should be laws for society to function. But I do not believe in right or wrong.

This may be because I am such an atheist and I do not see any god or such figure that has more knowledge than us who can tell us what is right and wrong. I do not feel the threat of damnation to motivate me to do the “right” thing.

Again, it may be due to my young age that I do not see that some things are just straight up wrong. There are things that I feel are wrong such as murder, but I do not feel that everyone must share the same belief.

Rules and laws exist to keep society in check and functioning. I do not believe they should be there to force people to do what is right. People will do what they will do and they must suffer the consequences of what society dictates.

But when someone says to me “How can you believe that?” I question them with “Because that is what I feel”. Why are some feelings about actions superior to others?

Who are you to question what I believe is right? Who are you to look down on me for what I think?

I feel that this is an area where we can improve as a society.

We can keep our laws and we can change them, I have no qualms with that. But we as people should be more accepting and understanding of the thoughts of others, no matter what we are predisposed to think.