Hey I Like My Dad

Yeah I’m going there. I am willing as a teenager to express gratitude, and other positive emotions. Because dang it, we have no predetermined purpose and cynicism has been trending since Franz Ferdinand was shot. While there are many people who would like to make our troubles worse by complaining, complaining and complaining in their everyday life, I would like to do something more helpful to myself by, perhaps, being satisfied with what I have in life. So here is a nice and accurate, but not exhaustive, list of the things I love that my dad does for me, since I know plenty of dads don’t bother with the least of what he does.

  1. He always drives six hours roundtrip to pick me up. It was only this year that he stopped taking days off work just to get me on Fridays, since his company didn’t like he was out of work so often.
  2. He gets me the best snacks. My dad works for H-Mart. That’s the company that tightened its leash on him, so he’s not exactly flowing in cash. But what he is flowing in is coupons. My dad never lacks in giving me free treats, the sorts I can never find in most grocery stores nowadays. I always wait to refill my childhood memories.
  3. He gets free Starbucks too, and always gives them to me.
  4. He gives me strategies for growing up. My dad sometimes felt like the bad cop growing up, especially when my sister and I were used to our mom doting on us. But it turned out parenting is a balance between the old adage of “you can do anything you set your mind to” and telling your children about those who seek to take that away from them. My mom is the dreamspinner, my dad is the postwar cynic. Huh, maybe I have to give those postmodern critics some credit.
  5. He has the oddest sense of humor. It’s not dad jokes exactly, but it’s hard to describe. It’s a little funky, maybe a bit something like out of a Taika Waititi production, which certainly explains my taste in media.

I’ve been worrying about what I could have left in the coming years. I consider myself an average, perhaps lucky person, but luck doesn’t run as far as it used to. I sense that if things were to go haywire there would be many fronts for “these unprecedented times” to attack me on, because I already see others being persecuted for those same things lol. But since half a person’s salt comes from their dad, I’m glad I have his principles and taste in comedy to weather the storm with.

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snow

I’ve always loved the snow. I’ve spent hours admiring its sparkle and purity. Going to the mountains was always a time of peace in my family. We all loved it; it brought us together. The smell of the mountain air and the trials of learning to snowboard and ski. My brother held my hands as I tried to balance down bunny hill. the condo we shared with friends. Every year, we came back. The weather would change and even the people sometimes, but the feeling stayed the same. The anticipation of the drive and the excitement of the first morning. The only times we were happy to wake up early were those mornings, that week, that place. Bruises from falling but we were still smiling. The sparkle in my young innocent eyes matched the sparkle in the snow. I think about these moments often, I breath in and smell the fresh air and the coldness on my cheeks.

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Half-Resolutions

I was never one to make resolutions for the new year specifically. If I wanted to make a change in my life, I would do it that moment, and cease it in two weeks like anyone else who makes resolutions. But I feel like I finally have time to take extra care of myself in the next six months, so maybe some resolutions for half a year would do me good.

  1. Either read a chapter or watch a tv episode everyday.
    • Don’t fret about whether what I read is a beloved classic or modern slop, when most classics originally were the slop of their day.
  2. Go on a run once per weekend.
    • Don’t feel bad about not doing it twice.
  3. Leave some more time to myself where I can do nothing, and that would be fine.
  4. Sleep before 11pm even on weekends.
    • I have never felt more that the world had turned itself around than when I learned that sleep requirements differ by sex. Women need to sleep more than men, but the oft repeated 7-8 hours of sleep a night is only based around the time men need to be healthy. And for years I wondered why I was so drowsy.
  5. Enforce the time limit on my phone.
    • The four weeks I spent without one were some of the strangest in my life, but I can’t say some part of me didn’t feel relieved in some way.
  6. Read the news, but don’t doomscroll.
    • I need to cut the tough balance between understanding exactly what my position in the world is, and retaining the drive to break out of it.
  7. Don’t wait for the right time to do something, but start on what I need to do once I can.

At this moment in time I feel I’m on a precipice. Anything that seems quaint or mundane now might be something I’ll miss very soon. I think on what could have been, what I must do now, what is even worth doing now in the time I have left. I wonder if I’m more or less satisfied than what I should be, or what is common for others who are in my position. But maybe if I can live more in the little things, beyond what is considered likely to yield products or prestige, then I can feel I’m back in my peak.

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Senior quotes i didn’t use

“The devil couldn’t reach me so he gave me passion without talent”

“Lie still my beating heart”  – Grandma Bell

“Somewhere between iconic and psychotic”

“I’d like to thank me for believing in me” -Snoop Dogg

“Imprinted on my soul and burned into my skin”

“Look at the sky tonight all of the stars have a reason” – Lil Peep

“We were taught to fear witches, but not the people who burned them alive”

“It was all part of the story, even the scary nights” -Kanye West

“One day I will have everything I prayed for. I really believe it”

“She overcame everything that was meant to destroy her”

“I have to be successful because I like expensive things”

“It was the chaos that made her beautiful”

“Rose from the ashes and danced in the fire”

“Were all addicts struggling with the drug of our choice”

“Were just kids, were not supposed to be heroes”

“Just because I carry it well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy”

“A big part of who I am is who I am not”

“We are writers. We dont cry, we bleed on paper”

“She was an open book, he was illiterate.”

“We drink the poison our minds feed us and wonder why we feel sick”

“Even with wings of wax I would fly to you”

“I would rather die of passion than boredom” – Van Gogh

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College

In my head, I am still a 13-year-old girl who just discovered makeup and spent my weekends at home with my family. In reality, I’m a 16-year-old girl with my driver’s license and I spend most of my free time with my friends. People have always told me “high school flies by” but why did it actually. How am I going to be deciding where I want to live in a year from now. What do you mean I won’t live at home anymore and I won’t be surrounded by the people I’ve grown up with. What if I don’t like where I end up or I get homesick. I have always wanted to leave Ojai but now I’m facing the reality of leaving all my best friends and it has left me distraught. I’ve begun to look at colleges but the thought of being all on my own is very scary. I can barely make a meal and do my laundry. I have such a big fear of being independent. I don’t like being alone I rather be with my friends or family and the thought of college heavily terrifies me.

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Bits and Pieces

I hate that love is just a word someone made up. Nobody really knows what it feels like because it’s just a concept. Why can’t we have soulmates that we are drawn to like in movies and books? Falling in love with someone is not like a zing from Hotel Transylvania or a bond like in A Court of Mist and Fury. 

Life is lowkey insane concept if you actually think about it. Like, what do you mean thousands of years happened before I was born, and there will be so many after I die? I always feel crazy when I think about it, but for real, how do we know about the universe? How did we make things like light bulbs and phones out of rocks and dirt?

Is there a word for feeling lonely but also like you don’t want to talk to anyone? Because that’s how I feel all the time. I feel like I’m a pretty social person, but I don’t like being around people, and I also don’t like being alone. I also think that I’m a genuinely happy person, though, so maybe I just like to complain or something.

I have never felt so understood by anyone as I do by my best friend. I care about her so much and I feel like she can see all of the thoughts in my brain. I wish that I could take everything that hurt her upon myself because she doesn’t deserve anything that has happened to her. I am afraid that I will never meet anyone like her ever again so I am grateful for every second we spend together.

It would be so nice if food just didn’t taste like anything. I feel like I would be so much happier because I would eat so healthy. Nothing tastes so good that it makes me second guess that either. I am such a picky eater and I’m sick of choosing the thing I hate the least. I don’t know if that makes sense but basically, I just want to eat healthy and not have to deal with everything tasting and smelling so bad.

I wish I was really good at art. That would be such a cool skill to have.

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christmas and finals

The holiday break is coming up in just a week, but that also means finals. I’m really happy this year. After all, I won’t have a final on Thursday because I not taking a language this year. I’m also super excited for next week because my brother is bringing his cats down, which are actually my cats. I haven’t seen them in months, and I miss them so much. Anyway, back to finals, I’m super scared for my chem final. I feel like I have just completely forgotten everything I know about it. Also, I don’t understand why we have to have a final for AP World like we’re gonna have an AP test anyway, so I don’t understand why he is torturing us with a final, too. I love Christmas. I’m so bipolar in this blog. Hopefully, you can’t tell I’m just trying to meet the word mark… ok I’m here bye.

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Basketball

After the first league basketball game against Westmark, I wrapped up the match with 4 points, 4 rebounds, 4 assists, and 3 steals. It was a solid team effort, and we came out on top with a convincing victory, 46-27. The game started a bit slow for us in the first quarter, as we struggled to find our rhythm. However, the team stepped up together, and we tightened our defense significantly. One of the highlights was our incredible performance in the third quarter, where we managed to shut down Westmark completely, not allowing them to score any points. By the time we reached the fourth quarter, we had established a comfortable lead. This allowed our freshmen players to get their first playing time in the season, gaining experience and confidence. Overall, it was a satisfying start to the league with a record of 1-0, and I look forward to building on this momentum in our upcoming games since it is always great to start the season with a win.

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more basketball

We finished the tournament last week, and our team was in 4th place. The record is 2-2 now. In one of the losses, we lost to a buzzer-beater 3 down at the half court after coming back from down by 18 points. It was the 3rd game in the tournament on Wednesday. I had a bad game, posting 5 points and 6 rebounds. However, we will play them again in the season. We should beat them next time with different refs and new systems and plays. We finished the tournament with a win against Beacon Hill posting 8 points and 2 rebounds. Throughout the tournament it was not the best performance, I only averaged 6.8 points per game and 3 rebounds per game. The season starts today playing against Westmark. The goal is to get as many rebounds as possible minimize turnovers and start the season with at least 15 points.

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were just kids

All I do is study all the time. I need to do something thats not study. I wake up go to class till lunch and then get like an hour break and go back to studying. Then I study during flex and go work out and guess what? I have two more hours of studying to do. How do they fill our time like that? I don’t even have any college apps anymore. I couldn’t imagine what it would be like to add that to my list right now. Sure I like organizing things and taking notes and I don’t mind the homework usually, but seriously enough is enough. At some point, they could just lay off us a little bit right? I’m trying not to stop caring about school and everything but it’s so hard. All I want to do is sleep and my life has never felt so planned out and repetitive. I’m grateful for my education, but it doesn’t always have to feel like work. For once can we just learn something fun and then go home and enjoy our lives?

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