I think a lot of people, including myself, struggle with the concept of friendship. What does it mean to be a friend? What the difference between friends and best friends? How should a friendship play into the romantic relationships in your life? In all honesty, I think the answers to these the questions depend on each individual person. Friendship may mean something entirely different to someone else than what it means to you.
To me, and this is just my opinion on the matter, friendship means knowing someone so well that you can laugh at each other, know what they’re thinking based on the look on their face, support them through hard times and all the times they make the absolute worst decision possible.
A best friend is when you tell someone things you never tell anyone else. You laugh with each other, spend time with each other whenever you can, listen withought judging, and can buy the perfect birthday present no problemo. All because you know that person so well, you know their reasoning behind their actions, and eventually you start to see eye to eye with them. And when someone else criticizes your best friend you immediately jump to their defense, not because the voice in the back of your head is telling you to, but because even though they have made terrible mistakes, you know why, and you can honestly stand up for them no matter what. And a best friend doesn’t care if you third wheel, in fact, they relish it. You know without a doubt you are an important part of their life. That is a best friend, and what it means to be a best friend.
What is not true friendship is when someone takes you for granted and expects you to be there all the time, no matter what. They seek your advice, and consequently refuse to follow it. A bad friend is someone who cross talks and reveals your deepest secrets to whoever it is that is willing to lend an ear, and repeatedly chooses a boyfriend or girlfriend over you not just in their free time, but who holds a place in their heart.
These are, of course, just my takes on friendship. My opinion of what it means to be a friend, the difference between a friend and a best friend, and how friendship should play into relationships. As you have probably guessed, this blog post stems from recent drama in the dorms, which I won’t get into.
I will say however, that I am lucky enough to at least one of all these people in my life. My two best friends are always there for me, no matter what, and I am certain of that. I do not feel as if I am about to lose either of them, in fact our friendships continue to grow every day. At least from my point of view.
My friends are there for me as well, to laugh with and share secrets with. And then there are those who up until now I have considered a friend, who I am just recently realizing may not have as big a place in their heart for me as I do them. I love each and every one of them, no matter if they love me as much. Sometimes it might not be healthy for me to be around them, but I will always be there if they need me.