A boy thought he was good at persuading for his age.
He almost always succeeded to change his friends’ disagreeing opinions, so he had been satisfied with his persuasion skills.
However, as time went by, he could see people not changing their opinions in his favor although he still had good reasonings.
Looking back and thinking carefully, he could figure out why.
He was not actually persuading them.
He succeeded to change their opinions but failed to change their minds.
The people could feel him being indifferent to their opinions.
He would only listen to their opinions to find the holes in them, to prove their errors.
He talked to them on the premise that his thoughts were right.
He was not having a conversation with them. He was giving them lectures and forcing his ideas into them, which no one asked for.
In your life, you are the main character. You’re the protagonist, the hero, the heroine. However, you are just a passerby in others’ lives.
Whether an opinion is right or not depends on what perspective we see it from. An absolute idea in history can be the most ridiculous thing in the future; someone might not like what I like; a homeless person can be happy while a girl thinks him to be unhappy.
No one can guarantee the future, and not one opinion is absolutely right. Therefore, the point of conversations lies on sharing different ideas.
So, why even bother to talk to people if you know that you will not consider their ideas as an option and only emphasize your idea again and again?
In fact, you are bothering them.